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Men nu skriver jag för att jag helt enkelt kände att jag behövde, är rätt motigt just nu på många plan. Mest känslomässigt tror jag, som ett tomt hål i mig? Jag längtar så himla mycket efter att träffa någon, att ha någon att vakna upp bredvid igen, att älska och bli älskad igen. Gud så underbart det vore. Ska jag vara ärligt, är jag nog rätt ensam just nu, även om jag inte är det, så känns det så. Att det är därför jag längtar så. Men kanske också för att jag har bestämt mig att allt det gamla är över, att kanske inte ge folk en anledning att tro på vad rycktena här i Gnesta säger om mig. 

 

A lot of people think relationships are a way to happiness, well that’s not completely true. It depends on the place you are in life before you think about relationships being the source of happiness. If you are someone who is unhappy about life, relationships can NOT make you happy. You’ll only be burdening the other person and taking their happiness away out of sheer selfish needs to be happy yourself.

If you’re unhappy with yourself or your life, you need to work on yourself. You need to be a happy person on your own before you can get into a commitment with someone. When you’re a happy person, your partner will be happy just by being around you, you two can share each other’s happiness for a much healthier relationship. Work on yourself, enjoy life and start loving yourself before you can love another.

2. You still think about your ex.

Do you often find yourself thinking about your ex? Do you miss him/her? Do you have certain triggers that instantly remind you of them? Then you’re definitely not ready for a new relationship. Your past is yours alone, you cannot and should not carry that baggage into someone else’s life who expect to have all of your love and attention

You won’t be able to be fair with someone new if the thoughts of your ex still haunt you. Having a rebound is always a definite no, because you just can’t play with someone’s life and feelings like that. It’s always better to wait it out and deal with all of your past feelings and get proper closure before you dive into a new commitment.

3. You're more then "to busy."

If you can hardly take time out for your own self, you should not promise someone else your time. If you are a very busy person, who can’t even take enough time out for friends and family, you’ll only be making your own life harder by being in a relationship.

Make time for yourself, take time out, fix your timings and work hours, have a proper and healthy schedule, make sure your family and friends are happy with the time you give them, and finally you can share your time with someone you want to live with. You definitely can’t tell anyone “I love you” one day and tell them “I’m busy” the next, nobody is completely free in this world and relationships are all about setting your priorities straight.

4. You're unsure of your feelings.

So you recently asked someone out, or someone asked you out and you said yes. If you find yourself thinking of reasons why you love them or why you are with them, you shouldn’t. You don’t need reasons to love, it’s natural and it “JUST HAPPENS”.

It’s a feeling that is just right, it’s a beautiful feeling of perfection that can never be explained with mere words and actions. If you’re unsure of your feelings, take some personal time and think about why you’re unsure and find a solution for yourself.

5. You have trust issues.

All of us develop a lot of trust issues at one point in time based on our past experiences, we all go through “Trust Experiences” that make us either give up on trust completely or be very cautious of how and who we trust. But life isn’t as bad as we think, life has ups and downs. We often let our downs hurt us a little too much.

It’s my personal experience that’s making me write so strongly, I was once a girl who couldn’t imagine trusting another person ever in my life, because of what happened to me, but then I met a few good people who made me regain my faith in trust. So if you have trust issues, work on yourself, regain hope in trust, do not commit to someone if you’re going to kill them with insecurities.

6. You want a savior.

Relationships can’t save you, they can’t take you out of a bad life, they can’t fix all of your problems, relationships aren’t for people with selfish needs. You, and only you, can save yourself and bring yourself out of the traumas you’re currently facing. Once you’re out of all of your problematic situations and you don’t need a savior anymore, THAT is when you commit to someone.

7. You love drama.

Jag har nu bott hos Mita och hennes familj i nästan 3 månader. Anledningen till de är för att vi då som sagt inte har någonstans att bo.

Men att bo här har funkat svinbra och jag trivs verkligen, och att bo inne i Gnesta igen har gjort så de har trillat in mer jobb än vanligt vilket är hur skönt som helst. 

Just nu har vi 5 valpar och 4 vuxna hundar hemma, och jag som alltid velat ha hund kunde inte vara lyckligare. Hundlivet passar mig perfekt, även om jag bara skulle ha 1 ifall jag bodde själv. 

 

På Fredag är det min 19-årsdag, då ska de bakas en fransk chockladtårta och så, sen på kvällen så drar jag mig mot Södertälje för att bli firad av Julia och hennes pojkvän Jimmy. Så de ska bli mysigt, vi lär ju dricka också! 

 

Hallå!
Som rubriken lyder är de igång igen, bloggandet kommer ta fart!

Designen är ny, nästan alla inlägg är borta, och detta ser jag självklart som en nystart.

 

Mycket har hänt för er som känner mig och vet min historia de senaste två åren, jag hoppade av skolan, jag jobbar istället, jag har många nya fina vänner och för första gången i mitt liv är jag nöjd med vad jag har. Även om allt kunde vara bättre, så duger de gott för mig. Jag är glad, och jag har vuxit otroligt mycket som person de senaste halvåret.

Hur som helst, tänker jag inte låta detta bli mycket längre, ville bara meddela att bloggen blir ny och att jag är igång igen.

 

 

1. Don't be busy all the time - If you are continuously travelling because of work, friends etc then don’t expect you’re other half to stick around especially if you have no time for them. Make time for your partner, make sure they feel loved, make time to get to know them, because at the end of the day a person who is feeling unloved and unwanted will leave eventually for something better and you will miss out. “It’s not about having time but about making time”

 

2. Don't be glingy - This straightaway will kill your relationship don’t strangle your other half with your presence in absolutely everything. Give them space let me them feel our absence in order to actually miss you too. Clingy-ness will just make your partner to want to run away from you. “Absence will make the heart grow fonder”

 

3. Don't lie or exaggerate - If you begin a relationship based on lies you cannot seriously think it will last. If you lie or even exaggerate the truth to impress your other half it will only come out later on, one way or another and you will look ridiculous. If you lie and are found out you will only cause your partner to mistrust you, not really worth it. “Honesty is the best policy”

 

4. Don't lack self-love - If you don’t love yourself how do you expect your partner or anyone else to love you? Lack of self-love can lead to things like clinginess, lack of trust and just arguing of little things. All of these can make a relationship hard. So don’t forget to love yourself first because it will help your partner to love you and it will mean you will be able to love your partner the way they deserve too. “Self-love is the air beneath all our relationships”(Elin Stebbins-Waldal)

 

5. Don't stalk your partner online or anywhere - Social networking is the easiest way to stalk someone. Problems will happen when you post something on your partners e.g. “I love you” FB page and they don’t respond to you but respond to others. Naturally you will feel hurt but seriously don’t over react just because they didn’t respond to you doesn’t mean they don’t love you anymore or you’re not priority. “Don’t let FB ruin your relationship”

 

6. Don't look for perfection - You will be sourly disappointed if you are looking for a perfect partner. We are human we are not perfect, if you look at yourself close enough you will find your not perfect either so why should your partner be? Humans are prone to make mistakes, don’t have such high expectations of your other half that they cannot fulfill will only cause unnecessary pressure in the relationship. “Perfection is not happiness, accepting each other’s faults is happiness”

 

7. Don't make comparisons - If you’re going to compare your relationship against others your always going to be disappointed. This will definitely cause resentment in your partner towards as they will feel that you don’t think they are good enough for you. Well of course they will, comparing someone with others will only make them feel insecure. Learn each other’s likes and dislikes get to know each other and don’t judge if they are different to you. “Accept the partner you have if you want to be happy”

 

8. Don't nitpick - If all you do is find fault with absolutely anything you will inevitable drive your partner away. They key is not to focus too much on irrelevant things and focus on the good things that your partner does. This way the annoying things will seem so insignificant in comparison to the good stuff that your partner does on a daily basis. “Appreciate the good things, and don’t dwell on the bad stuff”

 

9. Don't be possessive - Don’t allow small jealousies and insecurities to make you behave all possessive towards your partner and that is really unhealthy. It is probably the most damaging to any relationship as it can lead to horrible things other than a break up like abuse. Yea a little bit of jealousy and possessiveness is good shows you care about your partner but don’t go overboard. “A little jealousy is good, a lot of jealousy is abuse”

 

10. Don't humiliate your partner infront of friends - if you do this people will not respect your partner, your partner will feel insecure and probably eventually resent you for it. Even if it is funny, it may not be funny to your partner in front of everyone else. Your partner trusts you to treat them well in front of friends and in private so don’t be different person towards them in the company of others. “Expect the best treatment from your partner in privacy and in company”

 

Jag försöker bli kreativ, försöker skriva. Men mina känslor är så svåra att sätta ord på, "Summerade i en titel, oskyldigt dömd". 

Dessa ord förändrade hela min livssyn idag, hur man som person lever som död. Hur man liksom, inte kan leva till fullo pågrund av någon annans synder. Hur man aldrig någonsin kommer bli en egen person.

Men det är bara att kämpa vidare, att försöka komma ur denna onda cirkel som verkar funnits i genrationer.

De är sorligt, att man ska drabbas, så tidigt och inte förän nu inse de. 

Jag sitter i sängen och betraktar allting runt omkring, allt som rör sig, tar in musiken och det känns som jag befinner mig i musiken. Allt är annorlunda nu, allt handlar om att falla, och orka ta sig upp varje dag. 

Vad ska man göra? Annat än att gilla läget. Jag kan inte ändra på nånting, det är för långt bort. Äckligt beroende. Ständiga disskutioner och tjafs gör mig galen.